Tag: spirit

Black Hole of Neediness

Post author By ojinoto
Post date January 13, 2026

The Black Hole of Neediness my friends. This is what I am calling my recent discovery. To get right to it: I discovered I have an emotional hole in me that has been there for years. And I have been trying to get other people to fill this hole for me. But this hole is insatiable, it can never be filled by anyone.
Subconsciously, without my awareness, in my past relationships (romantic and non-romantic) I have wanted other people to fill this hole. I was not aware this is what I was trying to do. But people are incapable of filling this hole, nobody can do this, even if they wanted to.
So I must walk around with this hole, realizing that it is permanent, and that nobody can fill it. This lets everyone else in the world off the hook. It also relaxes me, because now I can stop looking for a person to fill this, which allows me to set healthier boundaries, expectations, and honestly provides greater outlook for the future.
Something interesting is that once I realized I have this Black Hole, it dramatically reduced a visceral, physical anxiety response I would experience in my neediness sometimes. Instead of physical, the response has become more mental, which is actually an easier response for me.
This video is a bit long and slow. But if you’re in the mood, I hope you enjoy. Love and Blessings.

Tags acceptance, affection, attention, emotion, free, love, neediness, relationship, relax, spirit, validation, zen

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Even Negative Things Have a Sacredness

Post author By ojinoto
Post date August 24, 2025

Even negative things have a sacredness to them, in their struggle. Don’t sacrifice their sacredness for your ego.

Example: Someone I love is having problems abusing medications, they’re unable to stop. I can turn on a music video with a catchy song about someone’s pill addiction problem, maybe I turn it on to make a joke for my entertainment, or to compare myself to “feel good” that I don’t have this problem. This is sacrificing the sacredness simply to feed the ego. Honor someone’s struggle, including your own. It is sacred. And while humor can be therapeutic and I believe even spiritual, ask yourself, are you feeding your Spirit or your Ego? With any move you make, are you feeding your Spirit, or your Ego?

Tags comedy, ego, humor, love, precious, sacredness, spirit

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Motivation, Resilience and Fearlessness

Post author By ojinoto
Post date July 23, 2025

“Motivation, Resilience and be Fearless in the Pursuit of what Sets your Soul on Fire.”

-Anthony, President of the Board

Tags courage, determination, fire, flame, life, living, passion, presence, spirit, strength

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We are Feeling Machines that Think

Post author By ojinoto
Post date June 21, 2025

“We are not necessarily thinking machines, we are feeling machines that think.”

-Antonio Dimasio, M.D. Ph.D., from Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart

A very interesting quote that reminds me of how central and powerful feeling is to our human experience.

Tags Brene Brown, emotion, spirit, thought

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Power Over Your Interpretation

Post author By ojinoto
Post date August 30, 2021
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“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

I love this quote about having power over our mind, but not outside events. How I see it:

It’s obvious, if we are paying attention to our lives and circumstances, that we dont have direct control over everything, (and maybe not full direct control over anything). Simply put: out what we can control, we have a lot of power in creating change. But, there are plenty of times when we will receive surprises, and depending on who we are, we may interpret them in various ways, as in “good” or “bad”, etc. We have influence over our interpretation, over the meaning that we derive. And depending on our chosen and effective interpretation, we contribute or “attract” certain outcomes.

Something interesting here: I distinguish between interpretation and view. View is our perspective. If we were looking at an enormous boulder in the woods, and I was on one side and you were on the other, our view / perspective is different. The interpretation is the meaning we make with our perspective. So, to change meaning, you can try to change viewpoint.

So, while I’m with Marcus Aurelius on this quote, I think we have power and influence over both, our mind and outside events, but we will also get surprises. But we have power over how we interpret those surprises, which impacts the present as well as future events.

Good luck!