Tag: self-acceptance

Belonging vs. Fitting In

“The opposite of belonging, from the research, is ‘fitting in.’ Fitting in is assessing, and acclimating. Here is what I should say, be. Here is what I shouldn’t say, here’s what I should avoid talking about. Here’s what I should dress like, look like. That’s fitting in.

Belonging, is belonging to yourself first. Speaking your truth, telling your story, and never betraying yourself for other people. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are. It requires you to be who you are. And that’s vulnerable.”

-Brené Brown

Tags companionship, connection, family, groups, love, self-acceptance

Chillin Free Hands

Post author By ojinoto
Post date July 30, 2019
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Sometimes what is needed and feels better is not necessarily to look on the bright side, but rather to see that the not-so-bright side is actually ok; a natural, normal, human part of life…acceptance.

Tags growth, health, humanity, presence, self-acceptance

Chillin Life Is Yours Quotes

Post author By ojinoto
Post date March 24, 2019
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“I feel like I belong everywhere I go, no matter where it is or who I’m with, as long as I never betray myself. And the minute I become who you want me to be, in order to fit in and make sure people like me, is the moment I no longer belong anywhere. And that is hard. I mean that’s a hard practice, that’s an everyday practice.”

-Brene Brown

Tags authenticity, belonging, Brene Brown, self-acceptance

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Spark the Flame Vlog 7 – How to meditate…for beginners

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Post date March 11, 2018
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Chillin Quotes

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Post date February 25, 2018
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“Here’s the thing, if we have goals and dreams, and we want to do our best, and if we love people and we don’t want to hurt them or lose them, we should feel pain when things go wrong. The point isn’t to live without any regrets…We need to learn to love the flawed, imperfect things that we create and to forgive ourselves for creating them.”

–Kathryn Schulz

Tags allowing, appreciation, gratitude, presence, self-acceptance, self-forgiveness

Interconnectivity Spark the Flame - Long Podcast

Spark the Flame Podcast 22

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Post date December 11, 2017
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The first guest ever on the Spark the Flame podcast, my mom! Zoraida Diaz, with over 20 years experience in professional counseling. Psychotherapist, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), CASAC (Credentialed Alcohol + Substance Abuse Counselor). Absolute overall wonderful incredible person, full of grit for Life and the Spirit, and my personal hero.

Spark the Flame - Long Podcast

Spark the Flame Podcast 21

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Post date December 3, 2017
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Tags art, authenticity, ayahuasca, Bruce Lee, dreams, enlightenment, grateful, Henry Miller, life as illusion, meaning, Models, running away from life, self-acceptance, self-expression, tsu-jan, Van Gogh, writing

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Spark the Flame Podcast 11

Post author By ojinoto
Post date September 25, 2017
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Tags ayahuasca, consciousness, energy, interconnectivity, love, meditation, mirror, negativity, reflection, refraction, self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-love, shadow self, universe

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Spark the Flame Podcast 10

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Post date September 19, 2017
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Tags acceptance, judging, love, meaning, self-acceptance, self-judgement, self-love, universal illusion

Quotes

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Post date April 30, 2017
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“…if there’s one thing that I’ve come to realize, if there’s one thing that I see as the biggest problem,

it’s not in building a world where we eliminate the ignorance of others.

It’s in building a world where we teach the acceptance of ourselves,

where we’re okay with who we are, because when we get honest, we see that we all struggle and we all suffer.”

Kevin Breel – Confessions of a depressed comic TED talk

Tags allowing, compassion, connection, empathy, self-acceptance

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Vulnerability is a Powerful Thing

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Post date April 22, 2017
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Vulnerability is a powerful thing. It directly helps to counteract shame. Vulnerability and empathy. Which all leads to compassion.

Tags belonging, compassion, connection, courage, empathy, love, self-acceptance, worthiness, worthy

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Accept Thyself

“In the journey toward the goal of ideal self-expression, we must use negative feedback data to correct course, as in any other goal-striving situation.

This requires admitting to ourselves–and accepting the fact–that our personality, our expressed self, or what some psychologists call our ‘actual self,’ is always imperfect and short of the mark.

No one ever succeeds during a lifetime in fully expressing or bringing into the actuality all the potentialities of the real self. In our actual, expressed self, we never exhaust all the possibilities and powers of the real self. We can always learn more, perform better, behave better. The actual self is necessarily imperfect. Throughout life it is always moving toward an ideal goal, but never arriving. The actual self is not a static but a dynamic thing. It is never completed and final, but always in a state of growth.

It is important that we learn to accept this actual self, with all its imperfections, because it is the only vehicle we have.”

-Maxwell Maltz, Psycho-Cybernetics

Tags acceptance, effort, progress, self-acceptance

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Relationship With Yourself

Post author By ojinoto
Post date June 5, 2016
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This is so important. So important.

To build and have an ongoing compassionate relationship with yourself.

You know you are trying hard. And if you’re not trying very hard, and this is bothering you, then start, love. Try harder to do what you need to do, and be what you need to be.

When you are trying, either from the beginning, or further on a certain road, you need to be ok with who you are, and where you are. Your challenges, or positive traits, may help describe how we live our lives, but we are not the culmination of everything we do. We are deeper. This is to say, you are more than what you think and see, and dont beat yourself down for what you observe. Change it, with an understanding of our humanity.